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Chivalry, as defined by Merriam-Webster, is qualities such as courtesy and courage. We associate chivalry as an act displayed by a gentlemen. You know that man who opens doors, pulls out chairs, doesn’t use profane language in the presence of a lady, walks on the side closest to the street to protect a lady, or any action which shows a sign of respect for a lady. it seems like these types of men become fewer as new generations grow up. Is this because of what’s seen in the media or heard in music? Or are these values no longer being taught at home?
Whatever the reason, the gentleman appears to be a dying breed. The few young gentleman that are left are ridiculed by their peers as being “soft”. It’s actually a shame because young girls are mostly clueless about the gentleman. I can recount several dates through my young adulthood where the men where far from gentleman. I can count on one hand how many of these men opened the car door or pulled my seat out. When it did happen I was surprised because it seems to be a dying phenomena.
Being the mother of two boys, I have already instilled in them that being a gentleman is ok. It doesn’t make them less of a man. I also advise my teenage daughter that it’s ok to be picky when choosing who she wants to date. He should come to the door and pick her up as opposed to sitting in the car and calling her on the phone to come out.
I don’t believe chivalry is dead but I do think it’s dying. Respect is a two way street and chivalry is a good way to start down that road. We, as a society must do better! We can only do better by being better examples and mentors to our children and not just the ones we birthed.