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Modern Women: To Submit or Not to Submit


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Today’s modern independent woman believes it is a sign of insecurity to submit to a man. Women fought hard and long to get equal rights to men. While that battle has proven to be quite advantageous in business, sports, and other male dominated fields, it struggles in the relationship arena.

I have talked to several man from various backgrounds, ethnicities, and ages and one thing remains the same, they love a “traditional” woman. The woman who’s almost obsolete today. That woman that takes care of the family, cooks, cleans, and most importantly submits to her husband. We, as women, know and understand that the man in our life needs to feel important and in control of his household. Not only this but men like to be needed by their woman.

I’m a modern woman and I had to ask myself “can I let him be the man he needs and yearns to be for the sake of our relationship?”. When I was younger I would’ve responded with another question; Why. Why can’t he just accept me the way I am? Why can’t he respect that I make just as much money as he does (if not more)? But as I grew older and life kept teaching me lessons, I realized that sacrifices are to be made in a marriage. Sometimes those sacrifices cause us to do some things we may not necessarily like to do so long as it doesn’t change the fabric of our being. We can still be strong independent women but I think we should leave it outside of the house and let our men be men.

My hubby loves the house to be cleaned with Pine-Sol. I, don’t like Pine-Sol and I refused to use it. Something so small created so much confusion in our house. One day I decided to just try it his way. I still don’t like Pine-Sol but we have no more drama and he’s happy. My point is if your man is making a big stink about submitting, try it out and see. Sometimes the look of shock, amazement, and happiness, is worth submitting.

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  • http://www.fapwinner.com Uncle Peanut

    Uh…. Well.. ahhhh…..hmmmmm…. There is so much I would LIKE to say, but this is not my blog. You have come to realize a very subtle, yet powerful tool to use. It is called compromise.

    In all relationships, there is that “I can’t stand….”… you fill in the blank, but if it makes your partner happy, then why not? Real love is not two sided, it is ONE sided. If you love him, then you will do what he wants, within reason,because you love him. Submission is always based on and rooted in LOVE. If you love him, is is not submission, it is I am making my man happy.

    He, on the other hand, should be willing to do the same. Husbands should “submit” to their wives as well. He should want to do those things that make her happy. Again, it is based on love, and love is never because I “have to”, it is always because “I WANT to”.

    Finally, the Bible teaches that both husbands and wives, should submit to one another. It is not just a FEMALE thing, but a MALE thing as well.

    The bottom line is that submission is based on love and mt wanting to submit. If I am making you happy, and you are making me happy, then we are two happy people living in a happy home, and if I can have a happy home by doing what you like, and I get the same for you… IT”S ON!

    +CII+

    • http://sennysen.wordpress.com Senny Sen

      You made a great point in that relationships in general are interactive. They were designed that way. Comprimising is definitly an integral part of relationships. I think some women are so turned off by the idea of submitting that they forget it benefits them in the long haul too. Love the comment!

    • Sharon D

      I agree Peanut, Very Well Said!! Neither spouse will have a problem submitting as long as they know the other would do the same for them!

  • http://www.fapwinner.com Uncle Peanut

    Submitting has been a battering ram that men have wrongly used to make women “fall in line”.

    We have all heard the ” Do as I tell you to do woman! I am the head of this house, somehow implying that the woman is less than he is. That is not only shameful, it is sinful.

    God created man and woman equally, with the man having responsibility to protect and provide, and the wife to be a helper, but it is hard to help someone that is not doing anything.

    Gods holds the man, not the woman, responsible for the direction of the house and family. If a man is doing what he is supposed to do, he will never have to tell her that “I am the head”, she will know that and respond both accordingly, willingly, sexually, emotionally… Do I need to say more?

    A woman is a thermometer, the man is the thermostat. He sets the temperature, she only reflects what she feels. #iamjustsayin’. PREACH!

    • http://sennysen.wordpress.com Senny Sen

      Preach! I like your analogy about the thermostat and thermometer. I might have to copy that. Words of wisdom!

  • Reagan’s Mom

    Congrats on the launch of your blog site Senny Sen!! I wish you all the best, and I will stay tuned…
    I love your responses Uncle Peanut! So much so I had to repost them.

    • http://sennysen.wordpress.com Senny Sen

      Thanks for the well wishes and support! You know I always have something going on so get your popcorn ready LOL…

  • http://www.fapwinner.com Uncle Peanut

    Hey, thanks for the compliment. Just trying to keep it real, and dispel myths, lies and other fallacies involving marriage and relationships. Thanks for allowing me to add!

  • Sharon D

    Im enjoying this Sen, its very interesting! I have put the books down….too time consuming! LOL

    • http://sennysen.wordpress.com Senny Sen

      Thanks for your support. I do appreciate it!

  • BroAntD

    Great comments, Uncle Peanut!

  • http://www.fapwinner.com Uncle Peanut

    Thanks!