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“Good relationships, even among competitive people, have that aspect of encouragement, challenge, and inspiration. When one wins, both win. That’s the kind of balance a healthy relationship requires.” ~Thomas Whiteman
Any relationship you are part of should be a win-win for both parties. No person should ever be above the other. A relationship is the joining of two people to form a cohesive bonded whole. We can look around and find many examples of win-lose relationships. Those usually involve one person giving there all while the other takes it all. A truly healthy relationship is rooted in the couple’s choice to make the other person happy. This requires us to pay attention. I’m talking REAL attention, not that kind of attention where you see them out of the corner of your eye but really aren’t looking at them. When you pay attention, you learn the inner workings of a person. You learn to read their unspoken language. You learn how to navigate their emotions, encourage their dreams, inspire their thoughts, and challenge their strengths. You also learn their imperfections. A truly healthy relationships screams, ‘I love him/her for all their imperfections.’ This is when unconditional love is born. Short of abuse, when you love a person there is nothing you shouldn’t be able to make it through together. This is why it is very important to pay attention because it’s easy to love the wrong person for all the wrong reasons and call it right. A healthy relationship won’t ask you to be ’stupid on purpose’.
To those in a relationship, I challenge you to strengthen your bond by listening and being attentive. Listen to their dreams, desires, and ambitions. Then find a way to encourage them on a regular basis. Every one needs someone to believe in them.
To my single people, pay attention, ask questions, and be patient. Understand the first person you usually meet is the representative, wait them out to see the real person. Also understand that sex clouds our judgement and creates false emotions. Listen. LISTEN. LISTEN! Hear their words but listen to their actions!