Are You A Teflon Tough Woman?

Are You A Teflon Tough Woman?

Published on February 28, 2012 by Senica Evans in Loving You, Woman Free Yourself

Teflon – /ˈteflän/ – Able to withstand criticism or attack with no apparent effect

How tough are you? Are you one of those women who is so tough that she is impenetrable? Unbreakable?

You know the woman I’m talking about. That woman who is too tough. So tough it makes a man quiver!

There are so many women in the world today who are trying to emulate a man’s strength but we (women) weren’t created this way. We were created as delicate creatures to be cared for and looked after. Don’t confuse what I’m saying and take it as helpless. Our strength is different from a mans. It’s that quiet strength that carries the household. That strength that cares for kids while cooking dinner, folding laundry, tackling homework, and most likely even working a full-time job. It’s that strength that allows a woman to empathize with the hurt, lost, and confused. It’s that strength that makes a woman so appealing to a man.

I’ve had countless conversations with men that say they’re tired of women acting like men. They jump into an arena and cry foul when it gets to be too tough. They feel they should have never even been in that arena. Now I’m not talking about women’s equality in the workplace or sports. I’m talking about the distinct differences between men and women in relationships. Both sexes were designed to play certain roles and somewhere along the way the lines have been blurred and crossed. You now see women acting like men and vice versa. **blow the whistle and throw the flag** Not cool!

Women, you must embrace your femininity!

That sentence had to stand on its own. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to expose some vulnerability. It let’s men know you’re human. The key is finding the balance between knowing when to cry and knowing when to stand firm. It’s funny because the “harder” (stronger) you act in a relationship the more the men say “oh, it doesn’t bother her so why stop. She doesn’t care!” Now I’m sure that’s counter-productive for what you were trying to do, which was not get hurt. But you still wind up hurt because he doesn’t care. Hmmmmm…..

Like I tell my boys, use your words. It’s ok to say “that action bothers me or hurt me” or “you hurt my feelings when you did or said that”. There is such a thing as when being tough goes terribly wrong. Overly weak or teflon tough will more than likely set you up to be a doormat because either way you let them get away with too much.

Let’s also not confuse teflon tough with having standards.

Tell me are you teflon tough?