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This article was originally posted on SoulTrain.com written by Enitan Bereola II. I love the way he addresses the men and women. This ultimtely comes down to knowing who you are and what you want. Are you content being a wifey or a wife? I know my answer.
What in the hell is a “wifey”? Microsoft Word doesn’t even recognize my typing it in this word processor. Why are so many men gifting women with the title and why are so many ladies gladly accepting?
In 2000, the R&B/Soul trio Next coined the word with their hit single, “Wifey.”
“You never try me / Always stood right by me / Make living lively / Highly spoken of, my only love / The only one, you’re my wifey / Make my life complete, sweet / But you know when to flip it street / Freak, but only when it comes to me / See that’s why you’re my wifey.”
Cool flow and neat lyrics, but why not be a man and drop the ‘y’?
“Wifey” is giving her Moscato, 2012 when she asked for Dom Pérignon, 1966 – far, but no cigar. “Wifey” is floating somewhere between a relationship and a marriage, but it’s not a fiancée. It’s like teasing a baby by dangling a toy in its face just enough so it’s content, but they sure as hell can’t have it. It’s that gray area that allows rules to be bent, broken and belittled without any real consequence. This wifey phrase allows B.S. to take place without the responsibilities and commitment of a marriage. If you’re just a wifey, you can’t hold him accountable for certain things. Wifies don’t wear a ring. They don’t have a ceremony, a certificate or any tax breaks. All they have is a slightly elevated title designed to keep them happy yet at bay while we go play.
A wife is a woman with a mutual lifetime commitment to a man in a God-sanctioned union – A wifey is just a really great friendship. The Bible’s and law’s definition of husband and wife are correct. Any other interpretation is your imagination. There exists no religious, local ordinance, state statue, or public policy for the title of a wifey. If you think marriage is just a piece of paper, then your marriage will just be a piece of paper. But if you fully understand the depth, love and sanctity of marriage, then that’s what you will experience. Your wifey won’t give you a kidney, but your wife will.
Bereola is the go-to style and etiquette impresario, public speaker and entrepreneur. He is also the bestselling author of BEREOLAESQUE: The Contemporary Gentleman & Etiquette book for the Urban Sophisticate. He is working on his follow-up, Guide to Ladies’ Etiquette from a Gentleman’s Perspective. Check his website Bereola.com and @bereolaesque on Twitter as well as his Facebook fan page