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Women, Let’s Not Think Like A Man!

Published on April 19, 2012 by in Around the World, Loving You
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In light of the recent fanfare surrounding Steve Harvey‘s new movie “Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady“, I thought it was only right that I address why we women should NOT think like a man.

Yes, we love to hear the male’s perspective on women and how we can improve ourselves but going to such drastic measures as trying to think like a man is a recipe for disaster. This disastrous thought process will create a huge confusing ball of mess. Women! My ladies! Let me talk to you woman to woman about thinking like a man. We need to embrace our femininity and remain confident in it. There is nothing wrong with being emotional or soft or being empathetic or using your heart. These are the lovely differences that set us apart and add value to being woman. When we try to emulate men we are doing ourselves a HUGE disservice. There are certain definites that we accept and embrace from men such as the thrill of the chase. So if we think like a man that implies that we too begin to enjoy the chase. Huh! Since when was it ok for women to chase men!?! I mean you can do it but from what I’ve heard the results are overwhelmingly NOT in our favor.

Men, by nature, are aggressive, logical, not nurturing, etc., etc.,. Do we really want to THINK like them? I don’t think so. Instead we should simply love being, thinking, acting like the wonderful glamorous WOMEN that we are!

Sexy Feminine Confidence

Have you ever noticed a woman who wasn’t the creme de la creme in the looks department but she had ALL the men. Maybe she wasn’t a size 7 with a big rear and busty front (you know the look that we have allowed the media to implant in our minds of sexy and beautiful). Some women wonder what does this woman have that I don’t. CONFIDENCE! When we are confident in who we are and sure of SELF then our confidence shines as bright as the sun. Think about it! We love a man that is confident and sure of himself so why wouldn’t they want the same thing from us.

Now, I’m sure I’m going to catch a lot of flack for what I’m about to write but it’s absolutely true! Women are no longer being women but we still expect men to be traditional men. We can’t have our “independence” and still expect chivalry to be alive. Some women are so “independent” they emasculate the man. Then after he’s been stripped of his manhood she puts him down and talks about him. Not cool! We need to get back to the basics and embrace our truly God-given gifts, strengths, and weaknesses as WOMEN. There is nothing and I mean absolutely nothing wrong with being a woman just the way we are.

Let’s learn the difference between a ride or die chick and a lady, a wifey or a wife, his boothang or his woman. It’s ok to be assertive but no need to be overly aggressive. You can value yourself, him, and the relationship without emasculating him. We don’t need to change who we are or the way we think all in the name of getting a man. We have all we need and it’s called women’s intuition. Let’s learn to listen to it! Trust me it will save us from a world mess before it even goes that far.

Do you think you need to think like a man to have a successful relationship? Sound off in the comments…..

 

Until next time….

Senica

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  • http://www.eclecticmanure.com Princess/Danica (@Eclectically_P)

    Wait. Did you say men were logical? Logical or illogical? I’m just gonna pretend that was a typo. Lol No but seriously, I tried that thinking like a man mess (not because of the book either)and it did not work, was a waste of effort on my behalf, and I only ended up feeling even more empty.
    Let’s just hope that everyone takes this “Think Like A Man” slogan for what it is as entertainment value and that’s all.

    • http://www.sennysen.com Senica Evans

      Thanks for sharing! That’s my point exactly! ! We only do ourselves a HUGE disservice by adopting this male thought process. We wind up worse than we started. OAN I heard the movie is actually super funny. Will you go see it?

  • Patrick Grayson-Denmark

    Great word and insight! There is a lot there that can be chewed on for a long time. There is one part though that I would challenge… That is where it is stated “Men, by nature, are aggressive, logical, not nurturing, etc., etc.,. ”
    I agree that we can be aggressive, call it higher levels of testosterone or the lack of growth in how we handle our emotions but that “aggressiveness” is not isolated to us men by nature niether is the seemingly and often portrayed enability to be nurturing. This is another false-hood about men. Do I admit that there are those that “act” like they cannot be nurturing because often time a man that is seen as being nurturing has been displayed or portrayed by men may be homosexual or just considered to be soft. But here is the thing though,you cannot truly love if you cannot be nurturing. The two are connected to each other. The problem is the years of men being taught that “real men” don’t do those kind of things and that is exclusivly the role of the woman which is total “BS”. To take it to the foundation of the spiritual. we (men) are commanded to love our wives even as Christ has and does love the church. Who would say that Jesus the Christ was and is not nurturing? And why would he command us to do something that supposedly is not in our “nature”to do. We are nurturing but some need to be reminded of it and shown that REAL MEN are this and not the other way around. The other sad part is unfortunately only the ones that are not nurturing for whatever reason are the ones that seem to be shown most often and the ones that are seem to be portrayed as the “exception” to the rule. We nurturing men are here and we are aggressive but we have learned to properly utilize that aggression. And yes there is a proper and positive way to use aggression. You cannot be a protector without being aggressive. There are other ways as well. Aggressivnes can allow you to stand your ground when you standing for what is right. Other words for aggressive are assertive, bold, energetic ect. Which are all qualities that are admirable and women also want in their men. I thank you greatly for stepping into your calling and reaching out in this avenue! You are a blessing to this generation and to the world!

    • http://www.sennysen.com Senica Evans

      Awww! Thanks and I’m truly humbled by your words.

      You bring up a very interesting point about the nurturing aspect of men. It’s true that those who embrace nurturing are labeled as soft but like anything else it’s finding the right balance. I think that applies to both sexes. Majority of women want a man who is strong yet nurturing. We want to know we can and will be taken care of both emotionally and physically. But don’t you, meaning men, want the same thing? A woman who is sexy yet domesticated and knows exactly what she wants. There was a paradigm shift a long time ago and I think it’s time for it to shift back!

      we need to learn there aren’t drastic differences between the sexes. We both embody certain traits from the other and it’s perfectly acceptable. I personally believe it all boils down to confidence in you!

  • Neezee

    Thinking like a man and acting like a man are two different things. In the business world, we have to get in the heads of our competition, size them up, so we can come up with a game plan to beat them! No, we don’t want to beat our men, but I see nothing wrong with figuring out their tought process so that we as women would be better equipped to deal with them.

  • Barbara

    It’s funny that you should post this because yesterday I received a press release from *Dr. Wayne Buckingham, pscyhotherapist who gives 5 reasons Not to Think Like a Man and said in part: “Many understand that the movie, Think Like a Man is probably intended to be a humorous parody to make light of an ongoing situation, however Dr. Buckingham expresses that he is deeply disturbed by the fact that Steve Harvey is instructing women to play games and to use bribery to get what they desire from men – especially since love and relationships are highly cherished in the Black community. “Relationships built on game playing cannot, and do not, work. Steve Harvey’s advice to ‘think like a man’ is extremely irrational and flawed. An individual’s behavior is not only influenced by thinking, but is determined by it. It is impossible to think one way and act another. Flawed and irrational thinking will not, and cannot, lead to healthy emotional expression or behavior,” states Dr. Buckingham.

    *This information containing Dr. Wayne Buckingham’s assessment on Steve Harvey’s book and movie “Think Like a Man, Act like a lady” is Distributed through BlackPR.com and BlackNews.com.
    Should you want to read Dr. Buckingham’s message in it’s entirety Senica, I can forward to you the actual press release.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=632877464 Orianna Morales

    I agree completely. Thinking like a man versus understanding how men think are two different concepts. I am happy to think and act like a lady. However, I barely agree with Harvey that understanding how men think is important, whether in personal or business relationships. That does not mean think like a man for you. To me, it means acting like a translator would in communication.